Many of us can relate to the challenge of finding healthy food that our children will eat. Our guest this week, Gina shares some of her experiences into the life of the busy parent and picky eater:
Are your kids picky eaters? Well, mine are. That’s quite a challenge when your kids are small. My children are 5 and 3, and both have learning disabilities, so for me, it’s very important to get them to eat properly. Between busy schedules, therapies, active children, and fussy eating, getting my children to eat anything healthier than a multivitamin is QUITE a challenge. So what is a parent to do?
Substitution-One thing I’ve done is NOT to worry so much. Every day you read the dangers of sugar, or wheat, or dairy, or red meat. It’s enough to make a parent go crazy. Unfortunately, time and budget do not really allow me to buy organic, sugar-free, gluten-free, etc. I do the best I can with what I’ve got to work with. For example, as much as possible, I use extra virgin olive oil for cooking rather than other kinds of oil. I believe this is probably why my good cholesterol, or HDL, levels are very high. I happen to also like the flavor that olive oil adds to my food. It is pricier, but we rarely fry foods anyway.
Fruits and Veggies, Any Way They Want-When Amelia was little, her therapist reminded me that sweet potatoes are a good source of iron. I was surprised, because I had given up eaten potatoes years ago. My daughter loves mashed potatoes so I make them FRESH. My kids also like potato salad, which I make fresh with potatoes, fresh green beans, tomatoes and onion, drizzled with balsamic vinegar. My little one like anything with a red sauce and since cooked tomatoes are healthier than fresh, I frequently give her tomato sauce and salsa. My other daughter likes fresh vegetables uncooked, but only if I serve them in a fancy tray with dip, so snack time becomes a fun mini-party for me and the kids.
Healthier Stuff-Rather than eliminating things from their diet that they like, I’ve taken the road of buying healthier versions of the foods they like. My kids are very fond of chocolate chip cookies, and Kashi makes a version with whole grain products and no sugar. They love peanut butter, and it’s a good source of protein, so I spend a little extra and make sure there is no sugar, additives or palm oil, just “made from peanutsâ€Β. We are not seafood fans, but buying pasta with Omega-3 and made with whole grains eases my mind that they are getting this important nutrient as well.
Plenty of Liquids-I’ve noticed my kids are thirsty a lot and it’s hard to keep them in milk and juice all the time.  I’ve started giving them more water, or glasses full of ice (they love to munch on it), and that makes me feel good that they are getting their fill of liquids. I keep lots of juicy fruits, like oranges, on hand as well.
It isn’t easy, but with a little creativity, patience and LOTS of label reading, meal time does not have to be the most difficult part of child rearing. Making sure that kids think of meals as a time to socialize with their family and enjoy themselves can also go a long way to helping busy parents get their picky eaters to eat right.
Thanks Gina! We have so much to learn as parents. Follow @ginabad on Twitter and her blog at Mom-Blog. For more on the picky eater check out the post from a couple of weeks Are your kids picky eaters?
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My son’s a picky eater. He’ll eat just about any kind of meat or fish, but balks at fruits and veggies. He will eat broccoli, Granny Smith apples, and V-8 Strawberry-Banana Fusion. Fortunately, he’s not at all inclined to overeat or to fill up on junk (though he LIKES junk as much as the next kid, he knows when to say “enough” and stop). I used to worry, but two pediatricians and three family doctors have reassured me that he is not malnourished or unhealthy. (In fact, I can’t remember the last time he was ill and needed to see a doctor for anything other than a school or Boy Scout physical!) He doesn’t take a multivitamin regularly, either. He does drink plenty of water (we’ve never made a habit of pushing juice or keeping soda on hand at home). I insist on him at least trying a taste of new things (last night, he discovered that zucchini bread wasn’t half bad), but I don’t want to create battles over food. I think that can lead to eating disorders that are much harder to ditch than it is to grow out of being a “picky eater.” Most people seem to grow out of it by their twenties. I laugh, now, remembering my amazement when a doctor told me this about her own son. “He LIVED that long and never ate a vegetable??”
I’m pretty fortunate in that my kids, though picky eaters, would prefer to snack on fruits and veggies than carbs and sugar.
They adore eating their veggies frozen, straight from the freezer!
That said, some days are harder than others and on those days I remember what my pediatrician always says: you have to look at their nutrition on a weekly basis, not daily. So if one day is all about the veggies, but the next is about the chicken and the third is about the dairy – they’ve had a pretty balanced week!
Great post!
Holly, that is great advice too! Don’t fret it too much. Forcing food at them NEVER works. My mom never did that, she cooked 3 meals for 3 kids (and my finicky Dad). I won’t go that far, but there’s plenty they can like and eat.
Jessica, thanks! That’s a great tip to, looking at it from a weekly perspective. Kids are always more robust than we think.
who said anything about picky kids, I think my hubbys the pickiest eater of them all!!! I want to put him on OPRAH!…lol…great info M
We don’t have kids, but both of us are picky eaters. And, I teach a development course – this is exactly what I tell my students. It’s good advice to keep in mind – no one food is indespensible and make a healthy version of what they do like! Easier said than done, but it’s what we try to do with us so why not with kids?
I don’t own any kids myself π just 2 cats who’ll happily eat the same thing day after day & not mind π
My mom told me that she bought a food processer when I was ready to eat food & simply pricessed whatever she had prepared for the rest of the family for me to eat. I’ve never resisted eating veggies (except for canned kale…yuck) as a result, I believe.
Have a great day, Mark!
Thanks brudder!
My son is a picky eater plus he likes to eat what he wants every five minutes or so all day. I wonder if he will ever grow out of it and I have tried many times to not get him to eat between meals. He’s six now and is getting strong so it’s harder to hold him back.
These are great tips to try to try to get him eating different things.
Actually, the reason why I’m an expert at picky eaters is because I am too! So I can totally relate, Diana & Bobbi. When I was at the point in my life where I wanted to eat healthy, every single recommendation stressed eating fish, tuna or other kinds. I cannot eat fish of any kind, so I had to do a lot of research and find ways to replace those foods with others I can stomach. Same thing with milk and certain vegetables.
My son’s not at the picky stage yet (although he won’t eat pork or chicken) but I’m sure it’s coming! Thanks for this post. I didn’t realize that sweet potatoes are high in iron. I’m going to serve them more often.
My son is a picky eater. He Picks what he likes today, and then tomorrow he doesn’t like it. I try not to discourage him. He loves healthy food. And he knows when he’s had his share of Junk food, cause he’ll ask me for a healthy snack. Great post, lots of wonderful info.
ps. I love Kashi
Very helpful post– I am not a picky eater, never have been, and thus often have a hard time being patient and understanding for people who are (the old “I cooked it for you/you should appreciate it” refrain). I need to work on this BEFORE having kids so Gina’s advice is much appreciated!
Felice, potatoes get a bad rap. I ate them growing up and then the whole carb thing made me feel like serving them was like serving candy. A little over-reaction, IMO!
Busy Mommy, isn’t is AWESOME when they like healthy food! But it’s ok when they don’t too, then it’s your job to look for alternatives (see parenting is hard!)
Good thinking, tfh! It’s likely your kids hate what you like. Hubby & I are both of italian descent, and grew up with lots of pasta. Never met a kid who didn’t like pasta, EXCEPT my girl!
There are few things I brag about, but one of them is my success in getting my kid to eat fruits, vegetables and whole grains. Here’s my philosophy and methodology.
It’s better to take in the good along with the bad, rather than take in neither. What? Huh? Lemme break it down. To get my kid to eat, let’s say, a hunk of spinach, I would often bribe him with a good dessert. Sure, I’d rather him not eat sugar, but if that means he’d ALSO get the vitamins and fiber from the veggies, I’m all for it. After a while, my kid didn’t mind eating good stuff, and it wouldn’t even take that much a of a bribe to accomplish it.
Also, I used to do what I called the Trojan Horse. My kid loves cheese. So I’d mash a up a little bit of broccoli and dump a whole lot of melted cheese on it. Gradually over time, I’d lessen the cheese and up the broccoli. He got used to it. Now he (6 yrs old) can eat plain steamed broccoli like it ain’t no thing.
Just some ideas…
My favorite part of this great post is at the beginning where you don’t worry too much. While I appreciate healthy eating is a priority, I’ve always known that none of my kids are going to starve to death. If they’re hungry they’ll eat. And they always did. Haven’t lost one boy yet, and they are 15, 12 and 10! Thanks for the tips!
Coming from the old school way of you had to eat what was on your plate and not move from the dining table til you did (and yep I slept few times there!) I do not operate the same way my parents did.
I’m vegan, my kids are not. Son (19) eats anything/everything, always has. Daughter (12) doesn’t eat red meat, pork, fish…she only eats chicken (organic), grains, fruits, veggies, etc. Most times I make a combination of 3 different meals but based on things from one…like I’ll eat the rice, veggies but make daughter chicken which son will eat as well. If I make son something with red meat, that means I then have to make daughter something different and myself as well.
I don’t mind doing it, because this way I know they’re eating and eating decent food. Daughter may not like trying new things and is picky but she still eats well balanced, healthy diet and is totally healthy so it works for us.
Others think I’m insane to cook separate meals, but I’d have to anyhow since I don’t eat anything of/from animal. I can’t complain about “picky kids” because how would I justify my being vegan to someone who’s not used to people not eating certain foods? Some would view it as “picky” even though I do it for animal rights and health reasons.
My son eats a few meals a day, my daughter kinda grazes all day, eats little of this or that here and there throughout the day. Some think that’s wrong, I think our bodies know what we want, when we want it so why conform to society’s way of thinking (breakfast, lunch, dinner). As long as kids are healthy and eating balanced foods through the week and aren’t overweight or sickly then there isn’t a problem.
Just my .02 π
Forgot to mention
even if we’re busy we can still get healthy good foods and a variety to the kids in their meals.
I own multiple businesses, am single and it’s just a matter of priority…I know so many that run through fast food joints because it’s “easier” and “faster” or because “Johnny will only eat chicken nuggets” but yet in the long run, you’re going to ‘pay’ in health…not to mention there’s a lot to be said about having a meal together as a family and enjoyin the time to prepare it as well. “Johnny” wants chicken nuggets..make your own at home w/organic chicken breast, organic flour, some seasoning and BAMM there’s chicken nuggets that are good for them, good to spend time making them with you too π
it’s about priorities.
My toddler was NOT AT ALL a picky eater…until she was.
these last few weeks things have been changing around here and not for the good—thanks for the post!
Maybe I’m just too hard-nosed, but I seriously think the best way to deal with a picky eater is to give them what you’re serving and they can either have it or walk away and go to bed hungry. (I know, I’m horrible.)
Granted, there are certainly some things some kids just don’t like and you shouldn’t serve them those knowing there’s no way they’ll ever touch them, but otherwise I think your kids should eat what you serve.
That’s what we do with our kids and there have been times they were stubborn… but once they figured out that’s all they’d be getting – they caught on. And the more you are consistent with this the more they will eat what’s being served.
It’s also nice as the kids grow to get them involved in what’s for dinner. Teach them to cook along with you; have them help in planning the ‘menu’ for the week; it’s fun for them and you’re also equipping them with skills they’ll use in adulthood.
-B
Oooohhh thanks for this!! Good post!
I’m so very impressed how most of you parents are doing such a wonderful job with your kids!!
Thanks everyone for the great comments!
MizFit, I TOTALLY know what you mean! At 10 months old, Amelia would eat ANYTHING. Now her food menu is pretty short, but at least there’s fruits & veggies on it.
Ben, I too am a firm believer in “eat what’s for dinner”. If they don’t, they can have fruit, veggies, yogurt or healthy applesauce and if not that, then bed. Period. I don’t have the time to run a lot of dinners like my Mom did (God bless her though!)
My kids are very picky eaters as well and vegetarians at that so sometimes it is hard to figure it all out. I agree with you on all of these and really like the not getting too worried! Great post!
My daughter (just turned 2) eats pretty much anything that doesn’t eat her first, but my son (4 years) is choosier. And since I have done the exact same things with both of them, I have to conclude that it’s genetic and that I can’t force him to turn into an adventurous eater.
That said, I do have a couple of ways to get healthy food into him. I use Prevention Magazine, Healthy Cooking Magazine and Clean Eating Magazine as my sources for the latest on nutrition and great new recipes, I cook the same meals for all of us, and I take it one step at a time. For example, I took a look at my grocery receipt and started replacing the unhealthy stuff with healthier versions. And now I’m in the process of removing all refined sugar from our diets.
Hi Mark and Gina,
My kids have been pretty good about eating what we give them. Vegetable are probably the hardest. If we can find a way to mix them in with something, that helps. Sometimes it works to have a dipping sauce, like a ranch dressing, too. I know that’s also not the healthiest, however, they are getting the vegetables. And we do limit the dipping sauces. For beverages, we limit soda and sugary drinks quite a bit – and our kids have learned that milk and water are really very good. In fact, our daughter especially, will choose water over soda 90% of the time – even when she can have soda.
Good stuff here! Kids and eating can often be a challenge…
Great post..and I totally agree with working with what you’ve got. My kids are 13 and 15 now and I think even pickier than when they were little. I don’t argue any more because I know they’ll eat when they’re hungry, but I do always try and make everything I prepare ‘healthier’ without feeling like we’re all eating cardboard. While I do feel that kids are entitled to be kids and get some of the junk that we all had growing up, if we try and stay on top of things, it all balances out to healthy kids and happy parents.
Great tips-my girls were sometimes picky when they were younger. But they were always always willing to eat fresh fruit of any kind so that made me feel better about them being unwilling to try new things.
This is great and so inspiring; it shows that there really are ways to keep kids healthy! Especially at that young of an age, its easier to start them with good eating patterns (like giving them natural peanut butter before they get too accustomed to the trans fatty, high sugar and sodium versions). I also believe that feeding kids homemade food is SO important.
It’s important to introduce healthier substitutions whenever you can. Gina is doing a great job at it. Great post! π
Great ideas! There are so many snack options that don’t involve boring carrot sticks or junk food.
My little guy is starting to eat solids and he LOVES mixed dried veggies when we’re running errands. It’s crunchy and the corn is super sweet – I have to admit to nibbling on it, as well! They offer a variety of dried fruits and veggies. I found it at Whole Foods, but it looks like they also sell it on their website:
http://www.justtomatoes.com/OJV-P.html
Happy Munching!
Nice tips! Thanks.
as a mom to somewhat picky eaters, I really appreciated these tips!
A fancy dip tray works every time!
I like the “don’t insist on a clean plate” plan. A picky eater will let you know how much they want and when they are hungry.
Great post! My kids are not picky for the most part, so when something comes along that they don’t like/won’t eat, I don’t stress over it and wait a month or so to reintroduce it to them. I also try to keep in mind that I get sick of some foods, so they probably do too. I love the idea of filling a cup with ice- my girls would dig that.
Thanks for that!! I’ve got a picky eater and it is SO frustrating. Coincidentally, I posted about picky eaters yesterday too!
Thanks Mark!
Thanks Gina for the post! Thank you everybody for your comments!
Really great Gina! It is so EASY to get overwhelmed with what to do and not to do re: healthy food and kids. You are on the right track with veggies. Love the bit about water. My boys are really into ice too, they love making their own glasses of ice water and i have found they don’t whine for juice as often. we also drink red tea iced (decaff) which they like helping me make.
Really nice to read a positive, helpful post about picky eaters like this one. I was picky as a kid but loved whole grains, so I like it when “picky” is not equated with “only eats junk food” π
Gina,
Great article. I am a mom of two somewhat picky eaters but know that it is worth the effort to make sure our children are fueling their bodies well. I have written a children’s book called Super Sprouts that encourages young kids to find the fun in nutritious foods. Perhaps some of your readers might find it helpful. It is available on Amazon.
Thanks. LC
Thanks for this post. It is hard for parents these days to feed their children correctly. I like the idea of making better choices of things they like to eat. I like the sweet potato part as well. I ask everyone to switch to baked sweet potato as opposed to white potatos. Of course I usually get an objection until I get them to try it. I now have some back up material to share with everyone.
Thanks
Keith Barton D.Ir. H.H.P.
I am glad to see I am not the only one that uses the “eat what has been made” philosophy. I know that sometimes my wife caves in and soon the house is like a short order diner. When they get hungy enough, they will ea, that being said, we are trying to be creative so that eating can be fun on the first attempt.
Awesome post, great comments!