Our guest this week is a mother of three kids, a graduate of Health Education, president and developer of the Super Healthy Kids, Healthy Habits Plate. A very busy individual indeed, please welcome Amy Roskelley!
Many parents are concerned about their kids eating behaviors. Kids can be picky, stubborn, and can go for long periods of time surviving on mac and cheese. It can get even more frustrating when you find something healthy they like, only for them to reject it the next day. So how do you make sure they are getting what they need without turning into the Grinch? Here are a few ideas.
•          First, chill out. If they are growing and have energy to sustain them for the demands of their little lives, than you probably are overly concerned.
•          Stop buying what you don’t want them to eat. If you truly think your kid will starve if you stop buying hot dogs altogether, I promise you are wrong. I cut my 5 year old off cold turkey from hot dogs, and 1 year later, he is still asking for hot dogs. But we don’t have any, so he eats something else.
•          Let them get hungry. Food always tastes better, and they are more likely to try something if they are hungry.
•          For preschoolers, use the red light/ green light method. Foods are all assigned red, yellow, or green. Green light foods can be eaten anytime; yellow light foods, sometimes; and red light foods should be avoided.
•          Do not regulate the amount your child is eating. You should be the one to decide WHAT they eat; they can decide HOW MUCH they eat. Leave the “clean plate club†in the past where it belongs.
•          Be a role model. If you eat good, healthy food, your child will more likely adopt similar habits. It’s been proven example is more effective than bribing when it comes to eating something.
•          Place a poster of the food guide pyramid into your pantry. Kids as little as 2, will look at our poster to decide what food they want to eat. Educating them about variety and good food choices gives them information rather than battling the “because I said so†model.
Fantastic tips! Amy has such a creative way to get the positive message out at her blog. The kids in her blog are Cereal Boy, 9 years old. Then The Flip-flopper, She’s 7 years old. Also there is ketchup boy….he is 4. Visit Super Healthy Kids for fun, healthy reading!
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Follow-up comment rss or Leave a TrackbackMy now 4 year old had a milk protein as a baby, and fell off the growth chart because of it. Our pede told us to get calories into him, any way we could. As he got older and started being demanding and making me feel like a short order cook, I put my foot down. Now he eats pretty much what we eat.
I shared some tips at my boog here.
My second child eats really well. I hope it continues.
I don’t have kids myself but Amy’s suggestions seem bang on to me. I think some parents forget that they’re in charge.
“Stop buying what you don’t want them to eat.” Simple but not so obvious to some people. Excellent post!
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I do not have any kids either, but if I did, I don’t think I could offer any better suggestions than the excellent one’s that you have!
Cool post with some excellent ideas! Pass this one on to my sis in law,who has a couple of picky eaters in her household herself. Thanks!
Great tips as always, Amy! As the mom of 2 picky kids, I agree with everything that you say above.
I wish Jason we get Tommy to eat better – so hard having joint custody and being the one looking in. They are trying to be better at wacthing what they eat and how much but still, there is a lot of room for improvement. I’ll have to forward Jason this post…thanks for sharing!
no kids- bu8t my boyfriend is picky. we wont eat anything unless its deepfried or wrapped in bacon.
Kelly Turner
http://www.groundedfitness.com
great tips! can’t wait til we have our first kid…getting closer!
This was a great article! Just what I needed for my picky eaters. Thanks!
love amy!!
and so far my daughter isnt…and Ive been duly warned that once she hits kindergarten it shall all kick in 🙂
Great post, I completely agree! Great reminder for parents. Thanks
Great guest post. I will check out her site because this tips were really good and I know I will need them soon. My 17month old is becoming a ketchup boy!
Thanks!
I never prepared special meals for my kids. I wasn’t running a restaurant! The rule was, they had to have a single forkful of every food on the table. After that, they could decide how much they wanted to eat. That way, they experienced a wide variety of flavours and textures, without having it forced on them. By the time they were teens, they obviously didn’t have to do the single forkful thing. Now, all in their early twenties, all three eat absolutely everything, prepare all their meals from scratch, and are not the least bit interested in junk food and sweets.
Very good tips- it’s got to be really tough to deal with kids and health.
Interestingly enough, my parents went about it the same was as Urban Panther has done it- and now I’m a health writer! So there’s definitely something to be said for that kind of parenting technique and style. It’s important, I think, to let your kids know that food is something to be enjoyed and that it’s fuel. Not to restrict things or obsess over it.
This is all great information! I have three kids, and even though they aren’t super-picky — there’s always something that they don’t like so much (like broccoli). What jumps out at me here is: let them get hungry. We need to work on this one, especially with our youngest. He is quick to grab a snack (and not always the healthiest) – and then when dinner rolls around, he has a hard time finishing up. Anyway, thanks so much for this – it’s great in trying to develop good habits with our kids!
“Stop buying what you don’t want them to eat.” – this is very, very good advice. Personally I try not to worry too much about what they eat. I keep junk out of the house, serve healthy food, and let them decide how much they want to eat.
The clean the plate club made me a big fatty fat fat. Good rules
Great post
We kept our kids from fast food at a very early age. I wonder if the “stop buying it” works with adults too? Mostly I’m thinking of using it in shoe stores.
Excellent tips..have 5 children of my own, they all become picky eaters at some point in their lives and they will also outgrow that stage with the parent’s help. Keeping healthy snacks available will also help and just as you said do not purchase the junk or have it available for them and they will not want to eat it. Great post:)
My kids are VERY picky eaters! I just got Amy’s fantastic plate (go buy one now!) and they love it. We are learning to fill our plates with healthy veggies and fruits intead of the starchy stuff. (no more processed mac and chz for us!).
Now I need to get the adult version of the plate for my hubby!
Great tips Amy, thank you!
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I loved this post. My oldest son is a very picky eater. I remember a time when he only at scrambled eggs and mashed potatoes. I love your advice of “be a role model.” You know, it’s funny… my husband and I weren’t great role models for my oldest son. We ate on the go… never sat down… and just picked. Then my second son came along… and then my third… and now my fourth. We cook at home. We buy healthy food. Drink juices and water. We are trying to live by example. I am going to do the red light/green light tip immediately. That is genius! I love that. Great tips, Amy. Thank you so much.
– Audrey
Mom Generations
http://www.momgenerations.com
Excellent advice. When my daughter was a little younger, we used the green light / red light. Also, Cookie Monster and Sesame Street really emphasize anytime / sometime foods. My daughter loved that!
There are some really good tips here. My fave was: “Stop buying what you don’t want them to eat.” Absolute gold!
Something that also helps is getting kids involved in preparing meals. (Even when they are too little to help, have them in their highchair in the kitchen so they can see you putting it all together.) This teaches healthy habits and gives them a sense of accomplishment. They will be way more likely to eat their creation without a fuss, the same way kids enjoy eating their mud “pies” at the playground. 🙂
I love the idea of assigning colors to different foods depending on how healthy they are. My sister has a lot of trouble getting her three year old son to eat. Maybe she should just wait until he’s hungry instead of having pre-established meal times for him. I’m going to forward this post to her.
You know one of my kids is very picky while the other eats just about anything I put in front of her. I am going to give some of these a shot!
The food pyramid poster is a good idea. Kids are like adults. The want to know why they need to do certain things.
Thanks
@Amy, Thanks much for sharing your time and knowledge…I learned alot! 🙂
my kiddos were picky but seem to be getting out of it and that totally rocks when you are the cook!
Great tips! I saw a teacher dealing with a very very picky boy on food. His mother also can’t stimulate him to eat. Each time I can see him crying during lunch time. Eating is just a torturing session for him. I believe we can help him learn to love food once he understands the benefits of eating healthy food. I used to have one 4 years old girl who refused to eat. I will tell her story of starving African children and showed her my muscle. It worked to get her to eat and everyone especially the parents are so impressed! Patient is the main key!
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