Our guest Rosabel Yip shares her thoughts on video games, how they affect our children, and some healthy alternatives:
In today’s world, most children are exposed to video games, play station, internet online games, mobile phone games etc. In fact, video games are dominating our childs lives today. It is a trend. Older children are now talking about latest games in the market or internet. They compete with each other on the scores that they get from the games. Children beg their parents to buy them play station or computer so that they can keep up the trend. Even younger children, who do not understand “trendâ€, will just follow what their older brothers or peers do. Some parents even use them as a reward if their child behaves or achieve the parents’ academic expectations.
I’m not against video games, but I do agree that adults should control the video gaming. We should set some rules and limitations. Some of the games are very violent – killing, beating, hitting, bombing, slashing and so on. There are researchers claims that the violent video games do not have any effect on our children. People are still debating the issue.
I discourage young children’s exposure to violent video games. They do not grasp what is violent, what is right and what is wrong. They might not know how to differentiate appropriate and inappropriate behaviors.
Children love to imitate other people. If a child snatches a toy from another child and the adult involved just lets it be without taking any action, the other child who sees this might imitate the action without understanding appropriate and inappropriate behavior. Imagine if he is exposed to violent video games where the characters in the game can just keep beating one another, what does he captured in his subconscious mind? Beating can be one of the solutions to get what he wants? Moreover, children get addicted to video games easily if we do not control the gaming. Do you want your child to sit in front of the TV or computer just playing video games?
There are many games that we can get our child to be involved in. Games such as running, jogging, basketball, football, climbing and so on are very healthy for our child. These games enable them to stretch and move their body. Your child gets to reinforce his large and fine motor skills as well as better body coordination. He gets to sweat to promote detoxification. The whole body movements also improve blood circulation of his body. More oxygen is carried in the blood to the brain which helps in his intellectual development.
Take the child to the park, water fall, lake, beach, jungle tracking etc. enjoy and learn to appreciate nature. Do gardening together with the child. Cultivate the love of nature among our young children. Take the child to the library or book shop. Cultivate the good reading habits. Reading provides information and knowledge. The child who reads more tends to be more flexible in their thinking and more open to new ideas. He also develops the ability to understand how other people feel and think.
Start by selecting video games that are educational and appropriate for their age. Read the rating symbols on the cover before buying any game – EC (Early Childhood), AO (for adults only 18+), E (for everyone), E10 (for Everyone 10+), T (for Teen) and M (for Mature 17+). Restrict the time and day of the video game activity, encourage your child to participate in the outdoor activities that can bring physical, mental and emotional benefits.
With our world becoming so addicted to technology, we tend to become less active, leading to an unhealthier society. Maybe we want to include some old school activities into our childs lives? Rosabel has so much to share, visit her at Nurture Our Child with Love and Patience!
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Follow-up comment rss or Leave a TrackbackThese are some good ideas. Video games can be harmful in so many ways!
What it comes down to is that these days we just have too much “stuff”. Whatever happened to enjoying playing outside and exploring our own imaginations?
A couple of comments. It seems that surgeons practicing with video games do better work 🙂
Also, I learned to use the computer by “playing” flight simulator videos “games.”
It can be a useful tool. Not into any of the violent games, however.
Nice post!!
I love this post I need to send it to ALL my students parents!!!!
I have three kids, all of who like some combination of computer games, games consoles, or cell phone games. And it can be a challenge to limit there use.
I think a key point you bring up, which I agree completely with, is that it is very important to make sure there are other active activities that they enjoy doing as well. For us, that’s a myriad of sports – baseball, football, soccer, basketball, etc. And it’s also hiking, swimming, tag, fishing – anything that either gets us active or gets us outside.
And with a good mix, I feel that some appropriate use of sedentary “games” is ok. And, we don’t do anything violent or graphic. But it is still something that needs to be monitored, or hours on end could be spent glued to the screen.
And that’s an important reminder to take away – as parents, we need to be involved, and know what is going on…
Mark, thank you so much for posting my article in your blog again.
@Sagan – Thanks for the comment and yes, we should enjoy outdoor games which are good for our overall health and growth.
@Dr.J – Thanks! I do heard about surgeons doing better work by playing video games. It can be useful tool depending the games that played by our children and also quantity time that spend on video games.
@Bobbi – Thank you so much!
@Lance – Thanks! As adults, we do need to control the usage of computer or mobile phone among children. Misusing of these technologies lead to more harm to our children.
The stimulation that kids get from video games may help with reasoning in their future. I agree that selecting what is appropriate for young kids will help with their choices in their lives.
With our kids we turned the games off and went outside for what my folks used to say “fresh air”. It’s paid off now as young adults and they are as well rounded as we think they could be.
I dont let my son play them and now Im scared hell be behind hi peers on the compuotr. you cant win
Great piece! I don’t understand the allure of violent/sexist video games at any age, but I hope those who do will help us understand what’s appropriate for different age groups and develop more video games that encourage physical activity and mental creativity!
Love this idea!!!!
We have a v-tech and it’s only allowed once a week for an hour. Not a lot, but there are so many other things to be doing!!
Our favorite? Craft of the day! We spend an hour to 2 depending on the project creating new things and then finding creative ways to display them!
Can’t wait for the snow to get outside and make snowmen and angels and go sledding!
Yes, I agree that they should be controlled, they can be addicting!
Interesting post! Not something I’ve had a problem with-my girls just have never been interested in the games. But I know some other parents who really struggle with this issue.
I agree, they should be controlled. I wonder has anyone tried the wii exercise games. Nothing beats going outside with the children, though.
When my kids were younger, they didn’t have any video games just for the vary reasons you outlined.
And today, even though they are all grown up, they still don’t get into video games.
Parents have the joystick in their hands………..:)
I’m so glad my 4 year old hasn’t caught this “addiction” yet. I have her play with video games but they’re the educational ones, not the ones where you get hooked and resist eating meal just so you can play! 🙂 I think that the best way to control this is CONTROL itself.
I completely agree that while video games cannot be eliminated, they must be supervised.
Just like everything, it’s all about moderation. They were saying the same things about TV years ago. When push comes to shove it’s the parents responsibility to set guidelines. I love watching TV, playing video games, hiking, seeing plays, going to the park, movies, board games… whatever… as long as you mix it up and pay attention to the kids everything is an opportunity to interact including video games!
Excellent post! My daughter loves video games, and I don’t have a problem with them as long as there are reasonable limits.
Hey, I am still recovering from my shoulder surgery, but wanted to drop by and comment on your latest post. I still read lots of posts but cannot type for extended periods of time, so my commenting is limited. I enjoyed this post and I am glad I dropped by.
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Mike
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I agree with this-moderation being the key. I know when I was a kid there was atari and we loved pac man and space invaders but my mom limited it or my brother and I would have played all day. Hope all is well!
I don’t have a problem with video games for kids if they are educational and limited on time they spend on them. I just think it makes it harder to get them out of the house to play. I remember the days of ring-o-levio, Take a giant step & hide and seek. We had fun & got exercise.
I agree we should limit the time our kids spend playing video games. I believe kids should go outside everyday and experience nature. The rise in kids obesity is linked to kids being more sedentary and eating an unhealthy diet. By letting your kids spend hours playing video games, you are actually hurting their health.
Great post!
i’m not big on video games (never was), but one that’s out there that i think would be fine for kids is the wii fit. nintendo was genius with coming out with that. play video games and get a (low-intensity, but still!) workout in the process!
too bad you can’t find them anywhere …
still, running around outside, making up your own games is still the best, imho.
As with so many other things in our lives, we need to find a balance. I’m not a fan of violent games, even for adults, but if it’s constructive, let the kids have some time with it. Also make time to get them outside and active. Allowing children to sit hour upon hour with a video game may create so many long term problems I don’t even want to think about it.
It’s all about being an aware parent. There is nothing wrong with video games, if they are age appropriate and are just one of a child’s many activities. It amazes me that parents would never buy their child a porn video (HOPEFULLY NOT, and yes extreme example to make a point), but buy their children video games where you get bonus points for picking up, ‘doing’, and killing prostitutes.
The Little Lion plays video games, computer games, reads, builds lego, etc AND none of that until his homework is all done.
My 3 children (now all young adults) grew up playing video games (and my girls can beat any boy!). All three are excellent problem solvers and have excellent hand-eye coordination. Due to gaming? Quite possibly. But none are gaming addicts, and all 3 read and are highly creative, be it with art, music, or writing. In other words, they are well rounded people.
It’s not about video games at all; it’s about setting sensible boundaries and restrictions.
Okay, I’ll stop there! I could go on and on about the lack of boundaries these days. smile
@Tom Rooney – Thanks! Fresh air benefits both adults and child!
@Suzie – Thanks! Allowing our child to expose to the correct use of computer – for knowledge/information and learning purposes!
@tfh – Thanks for the understanding!
@michellescharmworld – Thanks! I love your healthy activities with the kids. I do hope more parents are doing the same like you!
@Munchkins and Music – Hi! How are you? Thanks again for the support.
@tipper – Thanks! I’m glad that your girls are not interested in the games. You must have occupied their time with more interesting and helpful activities. Great!
@James Hubbard – Thanks! Outdoor activities are important for their overall development!
@Lisa N – Appreciate your sharing!
@Maricris – Thanks! Yes, setting limits by adults and getting the child to learn self-control and self-discipline are equal important!
@Vered-MomGrind – Thanks for the support!
@ Roni – Thanks! Yes, we need to set limits for all activities that includes time management, organizing and planning.
@Mama Zen – Thanks! I’m glad that your daughters are able to control their time and involvement in playing video games.
@Mike Foster – Thanks! I hope your shoulder is getting better and fully recover soon!
@Heidi – Thanks for sharing!
@DaDivaStreet – Thanks! I do agree with your of the selection of games are very important.
@Talli van Sunder, DPT – Thanks for the sharing!
@T – Thanks for sharing!
@Stacey Shipman – Totally agree with you – a balance in everything we involve in! Thanks!
@Urban Panther – Appreciate your sharing! I do agree that we need to be an aware parent – setting sensible boundaries and restrictions! Thanks!
Great post with lots of food for thought! I have a 5 yr old son and a Wii. Luckily, keeping the video game time to a reasonable level is not that hard with him. But, making sure that the video games are appropriate can sometimes be a different story. That problem will only get worse as he goes to friends’ houses whose parents don’t share the same views on video games that I do.
Still, I do think that video games can have a place in a child’s life. Like you said, it’s all about parents keeping control!
Hope that you and yours have a great Thanksgiving and holiday, Mark.
Thanks for everything as always.
@Cathy – Thanks for sharing. It’s true that it is sometimes difficult when we can’t control the situation outside our home. However, we try to build a positive character within him that he learns to choose the right choice between wrong/right, appropriate/not appropriate on his own will.
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I have several children, aged toddler to teen.
Children aren’t idiots. They most certainly do know the difference between what is okay and what isn’t… they know that fighting in a video game is just that: fighing in a video game. They know that it is not real life and those types of things are not okay to do in real life.
“They might not know how to differentiate appropriate and inappropriate behaviors.” If you feel that’s true, then maybe you’re not teaching them properly?? It all starts and ends with the parent. People love to overanalyze things and make things into more than what they really are. If the children are doing well in school, have done all of their chores, are smart and healthy, and spend plenty of time with their family, why not let them have their fun?
@Dawnmarie, very good points….thanks for your feedback!
It’s no surprise that technology, such as computers and video games, is considered a negative factor in the lives of today’s young people! Sedentary screen time has been named a large contributor to the growing childhood obesity epidemic by many health organizations.
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GoTrybe has found success as the children’s component for state departments of health, with school systems and in individual memberships that can be used at home or anywhere there’s a computer.
Just one healthy alternative to today’s technology-driven society! 🙂